Thrive As A Parent

As you take care of your kids, your partner, your job, your home, your family members, is there something you’re forgetting about? Oh, yeah - you! The parents’ role is powerfully important, but we often lose sight of that. What do you need to be the parent you want to be? Thriving as a parent is about focusing on yourself as well as your kids - and it will ensure your ADD/ADHD child the best shot at success.

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The “Secret Sauce” to Parenting “Complex” Kids

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-08-27

the secret sauce to parenting

For my first 10 years as a parent, I was searching for my village. I wanted a place to belong, to fit in. I wanted a place for my child to feel understood, even cherished. I wanted to connect to other parents and schools who understood my complex children. I was searching, but wasn’t finding what I needed. Sound familiar?

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“Put Yourself First, Mom”

Written by Erika Ferenczi. Posted in guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-08-25

Erika Ferenczi

The Summer of Self-Care would not be complete without a message for the mothers of Impact who have a tendency to take care of everyone but yourself. Dads, please take no offense – and consider sharing this with a mother or sister in your life who needs a reminder to take care of herself! Trust us – we ALL need this reminder. THANKS, Erika, for stating it so beautifully!

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Try “After” Instead of “If”

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in Life-Logistics, Relationship, tips-tricks
on 2014-08-19

Family sitting at breakfast table

Subtle tweaks of language can have a big effect.

We all know the power of magic words like “please” and “thank you.” Well, there are lots of magic words that can change how people respond to us, especially our kids.

Here’s an example: try replacing the word “if” with the word “after” to avoid putting kids on the defensive (hint: it works with spouses, too!).


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How To Respond To Teens Who Aren’t “Living Up To Their Potential”

Written by Maggie Wray. Posted in guest-experts, Relationship, School-Challenges
on 2014-08-18


“If he just applied himself, he could be earning straight A’s! He’s so smart…he’s just not living up to his potential.”

It’s common for parents of teens with ADHD to feel disappointed with their teens’ performance at school, and frustrated that they are not “living up to their potential.” But what if that judgment – that kids are not “living up to their potential” – is actually getting in the way of helping them succeed?

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Calm the Chaos of ADHD: The Benefits of Practicing Mindfulness

Written by Diane Dempster. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-08-13

Man sitting on balcony holding notebook, smiling

Feel like you’re always running on an empty tank because you have to live in the past, present, and future all at once? That you can’t enjoy your children because they’re always stressed, or you’re always worried? Does chaos chase away calm, and leave everyone tense and drained? Scared that it will always be that way?

We hear you! We have lots of ideas to help, but here’s a place to start: try practicing mindfulness.

Why Do You Need to Practice Mindfulness?

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Depression and ADHD

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, Life-Logistics, tips-tricks
on 2014-08-12

depression and adhd

The death of Robin Williams isn’t just jarring to the public, it’s terrifying for those of us who live with depression — whether it’s parents raising children with depression, living with spouses who suffer from depression, or even battling it ourselves. It is a far longer, more insidious battle than any fight with cancer I’ve ever witnessed. The battle with depression lasts a lifetime.

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Is Your Teen Ready for Coaching?

Written by Jo Ann Skinner. Posted in guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-08-11

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Your teen is disorganized, continuously late, struggling with getting school assignments done and turned in, and not exactly thriving. So, what do you do? You’ve tried everything you can think of to convince your teen to use the help that’s available, and nothing seems to work.

Does this sound familiar?

So, someone suggests you hire a coach for your teen, and you think, “Why not?” After all, maybe someone else can talk some sense into your teen, right? 

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Good Kid, Bad Behavior? 3 Tips to Deal with Disrespect

Written by Diane Dempster. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, Relationship, tips-tricks
on 2014-08-05

Boy smiling with mother standing behind him with hands on shoulders.

We sometimes forget the kinds of challenges our ADHD kids face – even if we face them ourselves! We get so caught up with their incomplete chores, backtalking, homework battles… situations that frustrate and anger us – that we forget there’s a reason behind them. I know I get worked up when I’m not careful!

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Getting Accommodations for the ACT and SAT for your Child with ADHD: Part 1, What are Your Options?

Written by Judith Bass. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents, School-Challenges
on 2014-08-04

Judith Bass

Just the thought of standardized testing can cause undue stress and anxiety in students with ADHD, and often their parents as well.  Even more daunting and confusing is the process of applying for accommodations to take these tests.

There are so many questions:

The following information will give you a better understanding of testing accommodations so that you will feel less intimidated by the process.

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Hijacked By Emotions? Tips to Get Everyone Back on Track

Written by Diane Dempster. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-07-30

Father and Son watching TV and celebrating

Have you ever been so angry you’ve literally seen red? Or so frustrated that you could scream? Maybe so sad or stressed that curling up in a ball on your bed is the only activity you think you can handle?

Guess what? Welcome to being normal!

Everyone gets knocked down by emotions from time-to-time. When you add ADHD to the mix, “from time-to-time” can seem constant. And sometimes, intense emotions can get so overwhelming that you get stuck or hyper-focus on them.

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Does Your Child Need a Sleep Doctor?

Written by Lisa Shives. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, guest-experts, Life-Logistics
on 2014-07-27

Shives Photo

Sleep disorders are very common in children, with rates between 25-40%. Unfortunately, the vast majority go unrecognized and untreated, even though there are good treatments for most pediatric sleep disorders. 

Children suffer from many of the same sleep disorders as adults: 

  • Obstructive sleep apnea
  • Restless legs syndrome
  • Periodic limb movement disorder
  • Insomnia 

Any of these sleep disorders can, and usually do, lead to chronic sleep deprivation.

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Ensure the Success of Your Reward System with These 3 Tips

Written by Diane Dempster. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, Life-Logistics, tips-tricks
on 2014-07-22

Mother and daughter sitting on picnic blanket

A reward system can be a powerful behavior management tool. How can you change make it work well in your family?

  1. Make sure it’s easy– and that means for you, the parent! Is this reward system going to give you a headache and end up as just another great idea in a week? If so, simplify, simplify, simplify. Make sure it works for you.

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The Battle For Brain Health Is Worth Fighting! 3 Easy Ways To Win

Written by Virginia Hurley. Posted in guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-07-21

Dr. Virginia Hurley

Would you be willing to try something extraordinary, heroic, even herculean,to improve daily family life impacted by ADHD? Most likely, your answer is, “Yes! Anything!” What about three easy, uncomplicated steps that could bring the same dramatic improvements?

Brain Health – We Are What We Eat

Within the past 10 years, researchers have been learning the importance of the connection between gut health and brain health. The gut is an important component in the process of making essential “neurotransmitters” like dopamine and serotonin. The quality of food we take inside determines the quality and availability of these neurotransmitters for use in our body.

As parents, we want to give our children with ADHD every advantage, neurologically. That goes for cell creation and balance of hormones essential for thinking and doing. That’s why it’s important to encourage the consumption of high quality, clean, live food, the essential foundation of brain health.

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Why Your Brain may be Interfering in your Parent/Child Relationship

Written by Susan Bauerfeld. Posted in guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents, Relationship
on 2014-07-14


Parents Brains can be Reactive, Too

It’s a paradox, really. For survival purposes, the brain is hardwired to zone in on threats. Yet the brain does not learn and develop well when it is threatened. 

A threatened brain wreaks havoc in relationships. When the brain is triggered repeatedly, it gets stressed, which makes it far more likely to experience life events as threatening than if it were a calm brain.

This causes more complications in parenting than you might imagine.

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What to Do When You Catch Your Kid in a Lie – Can You Let it Go?

Written by Diane Dempster. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, Impact-on-Parents, tips-tricks
on 2014-07-08

woman tries reconcile with daughter after quarrel

“Catch” is the operative word here! It implies that your kid has purposely set out to deceive you. Has he, or is there something else going on here?  

The challenge is that everyday logic points in the wrong direction! It’s hard enough to accept that once AGAIN, he didn’t turn in his homework, clean his room, or brush his teeth. But that he lied about it, AGAIN – how is that supposed to be ok?

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Who Needs to Watch Their Language, Parents or Kids?

Written by Carol Gignoux. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents
on 2014-07-07



Untitled“Are you doing this on purpose?”

That was my least favorite phrase growing up. It hurt every time I heard it. There wasn’t a “NO!” big enough to convey that I was out of control, my mind racing not-on-purpose, my agitation quick and energy boundless. I was confused, embarrassed, frustrated. I was not attention-seeking, not acting out for fun.

Every adult who grew up with the ADD/ADHD brain type probably has a particular reprimand that still makes his or her stomach clench. Those few words that can convey so much pain, anger and regret, even decades later. Language is such a powerful part of who we are, and it should not be treated lightly, especially with children. Forget the old sticks and stones rhyme; the hurt from words can last much longer than a scrape or cut.

Watch Your Mouth

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Ask “What If…”?

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in Impact-on-Parents, Relationship, tips-tricks
on 2014-07-01

Daughter looking a phone and ignoring her mother

Have you ever noticed that we parents tend to confuse “obedience” with “respect”? News bulletin: they’re not the same thing!

When our kids don’t “obey” us, we take it personally and take it as a sign of disrespect. We want them to “mind” us, because we know it’s important for their health and safety. But also, because our egos are tied up in it and when they don’t, we lose confidence.

When we turn our attention from their challenge to how WE feel about it, we’re not helping them learn to manage difficult experiences – we’re making it all about us.

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Practical Zen Brain Hacks for Parents: How to Keep Your Cool So Your Kids Can, Too 

Written by Alan Brown. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, guest-experts, Life-Logistics
on 2014-06-30

Alan Brown

The parent-child relationship is a battlefield of personalities, talents, deficits, wills, egos and many other aspects of the humble human’s inner being. The more mindful we are of all these inner forces, the less likely both parent and kids will get slogged down, if not outright whooped, on that battlefield.  

As Dr. Mark Bertin says, “When we’re not mindful, we’re not making choices.” It follows that when we’re not making conscious choices, we are not in control. And when we’re not in control, our kids don’t have a shot of being in control, either. Make sense?

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3 Steps to Creating a Reward System that Works!

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, expert-articles, Life-Logistics
on 2014-06-25

A young girl runs with a kite

Psst…hey you. Yeah, you! The one who looks frazzled and, I’m guessing, wishes you were in Jamaica with nothing but a trashy novel on your to-do list.

You have a good kid. Sure, sometimes she forgets to turn in her homework; or she tells a lie; or she acts out in school or has a meltdown at home. She’s still a good kid. And Reward systems can help you remember that, and help her know that, too.

Reward systems are not about ignoring bad behaviour. They are about recognizing and celebrating positive, healthy behavior. How can you make sure the system you put into place does this effectively, and encourages your child to be the good kid you know she is?

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The Only 4 Things You Ever Need to Know to Manage ADHD

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, expert-articles, Life-Logistics
on 2014-06-11


Well, I missed my flight. No, I wasn’t rushing, or running late.  I did not get caught in traffic, or fail to leave enough time to get there. I was at the gate, on time, relaxing, chatting with a friend… Only it wasn’t my gate.

It’s just such a classic story. Textbook even. Where ADHD and Dyslexia intersect to provide yet another opportunity for learning.

I transposed a couple of numbers, was distracted on the phone, remembered what the porter told me instead of what I saw, mixed my seat number with the gate number…and voilà I sat peacefully at the wrong gate until it was too late to make my flight!

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The Power of Play: Promoting Positive Child-Parent Relationships

Written by Laura Ladefian. Posted in guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents, Relationship
on 2014-06-09


Consistency. Structure. Planning. 

As the parent of a child with ADHD, you probably feel like you’re constantly focusing on consistency, structure and planning. You want to create an environment that is supportive for your child.

In the midst of all of these lists and reminders, something is missing. Your relationship with your child may feel strained. Now don’t get me wrong, all of those things are very helpful. However, there’s something important for you to add to this list. 

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Four Things Every Successful Super-Mom Knows!

Written by Diane Dempster. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents, Relationship
on 2014-06-04


*Note to all you Superdads out there: this applies to you too – so read on!

About once a week my kids accuse me of being ADD. I’m not, actually, but they see the challenges I have managing the details of life, and it can look A LOT like the things I’m coaching them to manage.

Besides, it’s fun to razz Mom a little.

After listening to one of our guest experts recently, I’ve discovered the truth. I suffer from:


Being the grown-up in the family with the most executive function can be a challenge on the best of days. Add to that single parenting, menopause, full time job (ok, more than full time), and mostly it can be exhausting. Personally, I have complete compassion for the other moms out there who add their own ADHD to the mix – hats off to you girls!

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Are you a “Yes man?” Practice “Juicy No’s”

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, Impact-on-Parents, tips-tricks
on 2014-05-27


Why It’s Important to Learn to Say No

We do it to ourselves, don’t we? We say yes to everything, from volunteering for school to helping out our favorite charity to attending religious programs to helping out a friend. We want to do all of these things, we want to please the people we care about, we want to expose our children to important experiences.

But, in truth, for many of us, it’s too much of a good thing. It’s time to learn to say no – consciously, and deliberately, for the health of our selves and our families.

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6 Strategies to Remember Your Grocery List (or anything else you want to remember)

Written by Beth Ardell. Posted in guest-experts, Life-Logistics, Organization
on 2014-05-26

Beth Ardell

Strengthening memory, for people with ADHD or other learning differences, can improve executive functioning and focus, as well as decrease frustration in the classroom, workplace, and at home.

While 21st century information overload definitely taxes our everyday memory, we have the ability to remember much more than we do. The key is to work at it. Not being able to remember what someone just said can result in the perception that you’re not paying attention to them; therefore, weakness in memory exacerbates the symptoms of ADHD.

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Why ADHD Makes Food Waste a Problem – and What You Can Do About It

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in expert-articles, Life-Logistics, Organization
on 2014-05-21


So, if I’m totally honest, there are parts of living with ADHD – and raising a family with it, especially – that make me crazy. Sure, I’ve learned to manage a LOT, to mitigate, to minimize, to accept, to let go. I’ve really gotten pretty good at it.

But sometimes, it just gets old.

Like the food in my refrigerator. Talk about old. One of my biggest pet peeves about how ADHD shows up – more than the overall chaos, clutter and disorganization – is the amount of wasted food I end up throwing away on too regular a basis!

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Parents Of ADHD Kids Need Love Too:  4 Secrets To Keep Your Relationship From Starving To Death!

Written by Sarah Ferman Robert Wilford. Posted in guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents, Relationship
on 2014-05-19

Ferman & Wilford Headshot

When you are a parent raising a child with ADHD, it is easy to lose that “loving feeling” you once had as a couple, all in the name of being a “good parent.”  Forging ahead in overdrive, you forget about your own needs, let alone the needs of your spouse.  Ask yourself:  

  • Do you feel so overwhelmed, tired & exhausted that you feel disconnected from your partner?
  • Do you miss that “loving feeling” you once had as a couple?
  • Does it seem like your partner doesn’t even know who you are anymore?
  • Is your relationship stuck on autopilot?
  • Do you feel like you don’t have anything left to give to your partner at the end of the day? 

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Help – My Teenager is Under the Influence of Hormones!

Written by Jeff Copper. Posted in guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents, Relationship
on 2014-05-12


When it comes to matters of paying attention, you need to focus on the process, not the result. This is never truer than when we look at the process of communicating with teenagers.

Occasionally, despite my best intentions, I end up raising my voice while preaching the virtues of life to my teenage son. It happened again recently, but this time was different. This time, as I went on and on, I realized that my son was not listening to a word I was saying. Not only wasn’t I getting my message across. I wasn’t having any impact at all.

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The Fundamental ‘Pursuit’ You’re Probably Neglecting

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-05-07

Family Relaxing In Summer Garden

If you have young kids – or listen to the radio – you’ve probably heard “Happy” by Pharrell Williams from the Despicable Me 2 soundtrack. And you’ve probably had it stuck in your head ever since. If not, YouTube it at your own risk! He sings: “Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth…Clap along if you know what happiness is to you.” Tapping my foot to the rhythm, this made me think of our perception of happiness. What is happiness to me? To you? Why does it so often take a back seat in life? And what makes happiness so darn elusive?

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When Smart Kids Struggle with School

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-04-30

Student with teacher in front of chalkboard

If I live to be 100, I’ll never forget the joy of that afternoon, overshadowed by the years of misery that followed.

She was 6 years old. Adorable in her little uniform shirt, having already changed into jean shorts when she got home from school. It was August, and she sat upright at my grandmother’s antique Queen Anne’s desk, pony-tail bobbing, home from her first day of 1st Grade.

Poised and ready to tackle her homework, I dare say she was almost excited, proud in that “I’m-a-big-girl-now” kind of a way. Loose curls falling out of the bob and draping onto her shoulders, she was ready to get to work.

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Life’s Not Going to Slow Down – Unless You Make It

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics, tips-tricks
on 2014-04-29

Two Women Having Coffee

When does life slow down!? If you’re like me, your days are getting busier and busier. We juggle work, kids, homes, obligations, and responsibilities. It feels like we need a 40-hour day to get everything done – and get a good night’s sleep while we’re at it! This week, in particular, has been a crazy one for me. I’m volunteering at a day camp and trying to keep up with my work and family in the evenings. I can feel my battery draining!

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9 Tips for Non-ADHD Parents to Motivate Your Whole Family

Written by Melissa Orlov. Posted in guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents, Relationship
on 2014-04-28

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Families with children with ADHD often discover that one or both parents has ADHD, too.  And when this happens, non-ADHD adult partners find that they are called upon to motivate everyone in the family, creating routines that will make family life easier.  It can be exhausting. Besides, you may end up feeling like the family bad guy.  Here are some great ways to inspire change in family members and enjoy family living with ADHD:

Understand your limits.  ADHD symptoms and behaviors belong to the person with the ADHD, not you.  As you seek to create change in your family, try not to take responsibility for the change that others should be making.  If you tell your husband or child to do something, are constantly reminding or nagging them to meet deadlines, or are generally running their lives, you are actually interfering with their ability to decide for themselves what they need to do.  Change comes from within…so don’t try to create it from without.

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Why You Need to Give Yourself the Silent Treatment

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents
on 2014-04-23


You have the right to remain silent. Use it! I know you think I’m kidding, but I’m not. Quiet space – where it’s not just you who remains silent, but the radio, the phone, the television, the computer – is not just a luxury. It is a necessity, even for the most extroverted of parents. Turn of the noise and give your brain some room to breathe.

Why You Need to a Time-Out 

Today I was driving – miraculously alone in the car – and I turned off the radio. Silence. It’s amazing how loud it can be. But then the noises in my head started competing for airtime. Tempted to turn on the radio several times, I stopped myself. The thoughts of people I wanted to contact came in to my head, and I let them whirl around. I confess to making one call, fortunately only to leave a message.  But I returned to the relative quiet of my chatty brain.

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Sometimes More Work Equals Less Stress

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics, tips-tricks
on 2014-04-22


Just do it…yourself. Don’t get me wrong - I firmly believe in delegating and asking for help!  But sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to tackle a challenge or chore on your own. If you’re feeling on edge, for instance, it may not be the best time for your son to help with dinner. 

I was driving to an event with my spouse recently, and I could tell he was anxious when the parking lot was full. I insisted he get out and let me park the car. Yes, I was willing to walk several blocks – in high heels – to keep my own anxiety level from rising. It was a win-win situation: He was calmer, and I met an interesting woman in the parking lot while walking in.

Because I chose to do it myself, stress left us alone that night. Sometimes, making a positive choice to reduce your stress – even if it requires a bit more work – is just the self-care you need. You can avoid the stress of leaving a task unfinished, lessen the chance of a meltdown, and help everyone – yourself included – remain on a more even keel.

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How to Make Home Like Camp

Written by Eugene Bell. Posted in guest-experts, Impact-on-Parents, Relationship
on 2014-04-21


I’m a lucky man – I get to go to “summer camp” all year round. This is something that many kids with ADHD wish they could do!

Often, families ask us what we do at camp that changed their child. They want to know what systems we use that might be transferred to home and school.

Certainly, there are a range of goals that each family has when sending their children to a residential summer camp. Some want social skills improvement, others want their children to gain a general sense of independence. Camp can offer as many outcomes as there are campers. So it’s important for us to evaluate how the skills they learn at camp can generalize to home. What do the campers really bring home that is of value? And how can we, as parents, apply that all year round?  

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The Healthy Way to Handle Mistakes

Written by Diane Dempster. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents
on 2014-04-16


Penicillin. Potato chips. The Slinky. Scotch Gard. The Pacemaker. Fireworks. Post-its.

What if there were no mistakes? I’m not saying that everything happens for some big-picture “lesson” (that’s another post), or that we should like everything that happens. But what if everything that happens is just an experience? What if we have the ability to choose whether to see it as desirable or something that we would prefer not to repeat? Would that help to let go when things don’t go quite the way we planned?

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Never Assume Anything

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics, tips-tricks
on 2014-04-15


I remember Don Knotts drawing on a courtroom chalkboard during an episode of Mayberry RFD: Ass|U|Me. “When you assume,” he said, “You make an ass out of you and me.”

Who says there’s nothing to learn from television! Think about how often you take action based on what you assume about a situation, when really you don’t know for sure. This can trigger a cycle of miscommunication that can spiral out of control and interfere with our relationships.

Say your child has been in trouble at school because she has forgotten her homework. You only find out because her teacher calls you. “But, Mom, I didn’t want you to get mad.” (Which is exactly what you are because she didn’t tell you!) She made an assumption about your response, and that prevented open communication.

The best way to teach your kids to stop making assumptions is to stop making assumptions yourself! It’s not easy but it’s definitely a pattern you can change. Make the distinction between what you know and what you think you know. That difference can make a huge difference!

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What Einstein Got Wrong and Lily Tomlin Got Right

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-04-09


“For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.” -Lily Tomlin

Over the last few weeks, Diane and I have been running ourselves ragged – not exactly walking the talk, if you know what I mean. Sometimes circumstances take control of our calendar, and we choose to roll with it… for a while. The catch is to be conscious that we are making that choice and to rein things in before they get out of control.

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The Best Teammates Have Trust and Gratitude

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in School-Challenges, tips-tricks
on 2014-04-08


A teacher in my kids’ school spoke out, recently, about the relationship between teachers and parents. He phrased it so beautifully that I asked if I could share it with all of you.

Thanks to the incomparable Greg Changnon for his words of wisdom:

The relationship between parent and teacher can be a difficult one. Both are members of a team that is guiding the student through the education experience. And sometimes, of course, teammates can squabble, disagreeing over the right play or the most effective strategy. The best sort of teammate is the one who trusts the other completely, who remains grateful for the other’s participation and influence.

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Failing Forward: Make Every Mistake a New One

Written by Elaine Taylor-Klaus. Posted in expert-articles, Impact-on-Parents, Life-Logistics
on 2014-04-02


I sat in the school auditorium, surrounded by about 300 other parents. I was there to absorb the wisdom of a parenting author I highly respect, teaching us about the importance of letting go, of letting our kids make mistakes. It is a message I believe in quite strongly.

I figured I knew a lot about the topic, given that my child – about 12 years old at the time — was an EXPERT at making mistakes. So it never occurred to me that I would be so shaken by the talk being given that evening.

As I sat and listened to the author’s stories, and her answers to what seemed like simple questions from other parents, I began to shake my head. The tears started welling up. “She just doesn’t understand,” I thought. “It’s just not that simple to let this kid fail. She fails all the time, don’t you understand? Her self-esteem is on the line!”

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Find a Phrase

Written by Diane Dempster. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, Relationship, tips-tricks
on 2014-03-25


Find a phrase, like a mantra, that helps you love your children even when their behavior is unlovable or annoying. A phrase that helps you want to support your kids even when their behavior makes you want to throw up your hands in disgust! It’s not something that you say out loud – it’s just a private reminder from you to yourself.

Here are some examples:

  • “Oh, she doesn’t know how, I can help her with that.”

  • “Clearly he forgot – drat that working memory – let me remind him.”

  • “I wonder what distracted her – let me get her back on track.”

What’s important about this phrase is that it speaks to you, ties you into your compassion for the challenges your child is facing, and helps you offer re-direction in a way that is respectful and encouraging, rather than punitive and critical.
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Targeting Behaviors for Change: Take the Two-Week Challenge

Written by Tracey Powell. Posted in Emotionality-and-Impulsivity, guest-experts
on 2014-03-10


As a coach and therapist I thought I knew all about the power of “attending and ignoring,” the topic of a positive parenting seminar I attended last fall.  Just as I started to tune out, the instructor offered an example of how to use “attending and ignoring” to eliminate whining behavior in our kids.  My attention perked up. 

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