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Digital Dates With Your Kids

Written by Diane Dempster. Posted in Relationship, tips-tricks
on 2013-11-22

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Ok, I know that the prevailing wisdom is to put down our cell phones, model limits and look our kids in the eyes. Absolutely agree. But I also say, “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.”

Since my teenager has moved away, I’ve had some great conversations with her. True connection, deep meaning, even problem-solving – all in the privacy of our telephone screens. There are times that a text conversation is exactly what we need to communicate, even if no words are actually spoken.

Am I suggesting you replace your dinner-time with text time? Of course not! But rather than just seeing the “evil” of digital distractions, I suggest that we can use these new forms of connection to our advantage. Be human with your kids. Text, chat, post. Make jokes. Will you embarrass them? Maybe a little. Will they secretly appreciate your attention? You bet – as long as you’re not judging or criticizing.

Oh, and an added bonus: if you use the technology to have some fun, your kid may be more likely to answer the phone when you call!

Diane Dempster

Diane Dempster

Through ImpactADHD, Diane helps parents access the best resources, training, and coaching so they, too, can find their answers. An experienced leader, an expert in change management, and holder of a wonderful basket of tools, Diane helps clients create deep, sustaining change and open their eyes to life. And no one needs this more than parents of kids with ADHD.

Comments (2)

  • Michelle

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    So true… I never would have predicted this as a benefit of getting my kids a cell phone. She can keep me posted on school events (bake a dozen brownies — as soon as the request happens; thanks to a high school teacher who understands ADHD and allows kids to text home and use their cell phones for memos & parent questions at appropriate times. Teacher gets immediate permission/feedback; parent is kept in the loop.)

    My daughter is SOOOOOO much more open about communicating mistakes and needs and fears when doing it through a cell phone. That protective layer/distance of “no glaring or judgement”. Now-days she just calls to chat… that never happened in the tween/teen world when face to face. But the cell phone opened the door and she is starting to chat face to face because of our conversations from the “safe zone”.

    Never would have happened without ImpactADHD.

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  • Diane Dempster

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    Thanks for the comment Michelle – and thanks for giving me a 504 idea. I have a meeting at school this week, will explore having teachers let my son txt important info and assignments to me during the school day.

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