Ok, I know that the prevailing wisdom is to put down our cell phones, model limits and look our kids in the eyes. Absolutely agree. But I also say, “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.”
Since my teenager has moved away, I’ve had some great conversations with her. True connection, deep meaning, even problem-solving – all in the privacy of our telephone screens. There are times that a text conversation is exactly what we need to communicate, even if no words are actually spoken.
Am I suggesting you replace your dinner-time with text time? Of course not! But rather than just seeing the “evil” of digital distractions, I suggest that we can use these new forms of connection to our advantage. Be human with your kids. Text, chat, post. Make jokes. Will you embarrass them? Maybe a little. Will they secretly appreciate your attention? You bet – as long as you’re not judging or criticizing.